Friday, May 17, 2013

Breaking the Wall of Silence

This blog is all about writing in general and my writing in particular. I hardly, if ever, talk about personal stuff here. But writing takes from life,  and so here I go about my silence so far this month.

In the first week of April, we lost my sister-in-law to cancer, and the last week of April we lost my mother-in-law too in an unusual, and somewhat unprecedented (in her city and community, at least) way: a snakebite.

We're all trying to pull together now, cope as a family, as families do.

But inside of me is a wall of silence. I haven't written much since end of April, which is about 20 days now. Somewhat unnatural for me, because I write (or should I say, used to write) daily. Blogging seems like a burden, but I miss all my friends, the regulars who always visit and comment, and those who dropped by in April for the A to Z Challenge.

April, which was supposed to be a happy blogging month for me, turned into a personal nightmare-- a fact that showed in my lack of visits to other blogs, and non-response to comments.

To all those who commented, I plan to visit you back once I get back to myself a little, and get hold of a good internet connection. I won't have proper internet till the end of May, but come June and I hope to get back to blogging.

In between, I'll try and post when the muse takes me, or the need to talk is too insistent to ignore, like now. Take care, all, and for those who left me a message on the email and my A to Z Challenge Cohosts, and team, I love you all and I'm very grateful.

Here's to all of you till I post again, which, hopefully, should be soon.

22 comments:

  1. I am so sorry to hear of the difficulties you have experienced, and so close together. Don't feel bad about not blogging or responding - grief has a way of making you ride along with it for a while whether you want to or not. Prayers.

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  2. It's times like this that make you stop and reassess what's really important in our lives. It's not blogging. Blogs will wait. It's family and friends. I know that when my Mum died two years ago I thought I'd never write again. I took time out and that's what you must do too. Take care. Spend time with your family. They're precious and don't forget to look after yourself. My thought are, and have been, with you.

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  3. I'm so sorry for your losses. I've been thinking of you since your last post. You need to work on healing now. The writing will come later.

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  4. Damyanti- You told us about your sister-in-law but I was shocked to know you lost your mum-in-law too, and in such a terrible way. Your family has really been tested. Each of us has our own way of coping with loss and I'm sure you will find the strength within individually and as a family to heal.
    Sending you all my condolences and prayers. Hugs.

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  5. Thanks for sharing so openly. You have my prayers and whatever else you might need. We all love you and want you to take the time you need. We will be here when you get "back" to writing and blogging. Nothing is as important as family.
    Tina @ Life is Good

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  6. I hope this comment posts. You have my prayers.

    Hugs and chocolate,
    Shelly

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  7. Two deaths in so short a period is hard to deal with. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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  8. Sometimes silence isn't a deficit, it's tribute our hearts pay to a pain too deep for words. When the swelling of grief subsides, you'll speak again.

    Till then, we're listening to your silence with understanding and compassion. HUGS

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  9. Damy, you take all the time you need. You know the A to Z Team is with you.

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  10. Take things as slowly as you need. Sending you and your family much love and prayers.

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  11. We are all behind you and sorry for your losses. Very difficult to cope with at any time.

    JO ON FOOD, MY TRAVELS AND A SCENT OF CHOCOLATE

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  12. Sorry to hear about your losses. You take all the time you need.

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  13. blessings to you and yours, my heart bleeds for your family

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  14. My prayers have been with you all the time. Dragon hugs.

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  15. We all understand, Damyanti! You have taken a blow and need time. The words will flow again when you are ready.

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  16. I'm so sorry you experienced such a traumatic and difficult April, D. Hope the rest of 2013 is kinder. ((((((((((Damyanti))))))))))
    Some Dark Romantic

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  17. Looking forward to June and your blogging.
    Thank you very much for your likes. :)

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  18. I am so, so sorry for so many hard times last month. Take time to heal.

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  19. Sorry for your loss. Just stepped by here. Interesting blog

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  20. So sorry to hear about your loss! What terrible ways in which to lose family.

    You have an amazing blog, by the way. I came here to say thank you for visiting my blog. Take care! I hope you start writing again soon.

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  21. Losing two people you love takes its toll - there's no need for apologies. Please take all the time you need to grieve and don't worry about us A-Z bloggers. Now is the time to focus on your healing and that of your family.

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